Marriage is a milestone in life after which life becomes either easy or extremely difficult for the parties.

Marriage is not the union of two people but the union of two families. Therefore, choosing a spouse should be done very thoughtfully. This matter should not be rushed, but proper time should be taken for choosing a travel partner, because proper selection is the basis of a successful married life.

Family affairs consultant Dr. Willa Azzam while talking to Saidati Magazine said that the most important decision in future decisions is choosing the right and suitable spouse which must be taken completely seriously. Before arriving at any decision in this regard, it is important to get enough time to think before taking the final decision.

He said that the choice of a life partner is a very important choice, so one should think about it from every angle keeping emotions in check so that there are no differences and difficulties in the future.

Regarding choosing a spouse, Dr. Villa gave some useful tips which are as follows.

Religion, morality and behavior

Religion and morals are the most important and fundamental point in choosing a life partner, because the beginning of married life must be built on the right foundation. If the foundation of a building is wrong, it collapses. Therefore, religion, morals and attitude are very important for married life and the right choice is very important. If a man is not bound to perform his religious duties and his morals are not correct, then he cannot prove to be a good husband or spouse.

Appropriate age

Dr. Willa Azzam emphasizes that age difference is very important for any couple. It would be better if the age difference between the parties is not too much or let’s say the difference is not more than 12 years, however it is difficult to determine any limit for the ideal age difference. Because sometimes it has been seen that despite the big difference in age, ideal understanding was established between the parties, but this matter is related to different personalities and mental harmony.

Educational relevance or academic equivalence

Harmony in the field of education is very important in creating understanding and healthy environment between the parties. In this case, the parties have a lot of ease in mutual understanding and solving problems and differences when there is mental harmony.

On the contrary, if there is a mismatch between the parties, in this case, a party who is relatively low in knowledge may suffer from a sense of inferiority, which is likely to increase the distance and tension in the relationship. .

Intellectual compatibility or harmony

In case of lack of harmony in thinking or complete disagreement, great difficulties can arise between the couple. In this case, each party will put forward its own arguments to apply its thinking to the other, assuming that its arguments will be accepted, although it is not necessary that the arguments given are actually correct. And this point can be the cause of mutual disagreement.

Self-confident

An ideal couple is characterized by a man with an attractive and confident personality. He should have full confidence in his abilities because having a strong self-confidence factor in a man is the guarantee of a successful and happy family.

Dr. Villa said that a man with a confident personality provides a sense of satisfaction in a way that highlights a sense of personal security.

Importance of physical and mental health

To choose an ideal spouse, it is important to choose a person who has mental and physical health and also takes good care of him to maintain his health.

Obligation and sense of responsibility

A sense of responsibility and commitment are qualities that should be found in any person. Because after marriage, if neither party realizes their responsibilities, it will become very difficult to drive the car of life. Generally, mutual differences also increase due to these reasons.

Anyone who has a sense of responsibility always moves things forward with gentleness, which leads to better decisions in difficult situations.

A man who is fully aware of his responsibility has clear goals and plans with them in mind. Modesty and discretion are also prominent in such a person. On any disagreement, he works with understanding and gives priority to positive thinking.

Social differences

It is also not appropriate for any couple to have too much social difference, which usually does not create mental harmony and understanding between the parties.

Differences that arise in the case of socially significant differences later lead to major difficulties and the relationship ends in failure. Therefore, it is better to choose a spouse if there is equality in society or the difference is not too great.

Strong personality

A man with a strong personality can handle household affairs better. If the male who is the head of the house has a weak personality, his personal affairs will not go well and he will have to face difficulties.

Mutual support is very important for a successful married life, so a strong man’s personality is important for a happy and successful life.

Attraction

It is important to take into account the appearance of a man, how much he arranges for personal hygiene and how much he cares.

Also, soft-hearted men can prove to be the best because they love their family and take care of everyone.