Traveling with friends can be a fun and rewarding experience, but sometimes, it can be a source of stress and conflict. That’s what happened to one woman who decided not to travel with a disabled friend He shared his story on reddit. Instead of being shamed for her choice, she received a lot of praise and support from other users who understood her situation.

How it started: I (30 years old) have a friend “Ashley” (also 30 years old). Ashley and I have been friends since we were 13. We parted ways After high school but stayed in touch. It’s Ashley disabled person. She has Fibromyalgia.

We planned a short vacation to the city together, which was Ashley’s idea, and we planned it a year in advance for a 3 night stay.

The actual vacation was okay, but I found myself around Ashley mental stress. She was over packed (she brought 7 dresses, various hair dryers and other unnecessary items) and was always complaining about how heavy her bags were. She insists on a long walk into town, but she’s tired and says she has to get a taxi home because she can’t walk back.

I had the last straw At the station, Ashley had a meltdown. I took her to the station (I didn’t get the train back, we live in completely different areas).

We got to the table and she asked the staff if it was available A wheelchair She can use it because she struggles to walk further to get to the platform. They were all used and asked if she had booked help and she didn’t and said a chair would be available in an hour. Ashley She lost her cool and yelled at them Saying she was going to miss the train, she sat down on the floor. I tried to convince her but to no avail. She was very insulting and called them names which was very embarrassing.

I stayed with Ashley and eventually the manager arrived with the chair. He helped Ashley and she went home.

2 days after we got home, Ashley asked me if I would come on a similar vacation next year. I told her no, Thanks. I tried to explain to her that it would be better if we didn’t take a vacation together after our experience. Ashley is mad at me now and says I’m brilliant, but I’m struggling to deal with how disorganized she is when it comes to her own needs.

Here are some comments the author received:

• Her behavior has nothing to do with disability, so it shouldn’t be mentioned unless she’s trying to make it an excuse (gross). Fairmount1955 / Reddit
• I also have fibromyalgia. I know my limitations or when it happens sometimes, a limitation surprises me; I know it’s no one else’s fault. soyeah_87 / Reddit
• Generally this is a useful post for me. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia a few years ago and I try to be mindful of my limitations, which isn’t always easy (I live alone). But I’m going to a conference with a friend next month, which reminds me to be extra careful so I don’t overdo it and make the trip unpleasant for anyone. Thess514 / Reddit

Traveling with a disabled friend can be a challenging and rewarding experience, but it’s not for everyone, as is traveling with children, especially fathers. Sometimes, you just have to do what’s best for you and your friend, and respect each other’s wishes.